ffsshh:

for some disabled ppl their disability is a gift that they feel they’re a better person for having & they wouldn’t change it for the world
for some disabled ppl their disability is the worst thing that ever happened to them & they’d give anything not to have it
for most disabled ppl their disability is neither or both. their feelings are somewhere inbetween or all over the map. completely neutral or shifting between the extremes
all of these are perfectly valid relationships to have w/ your disability. none of them are wrong or right or inherently healthy or unhealthy. they just are what they are. if you wanna improve your relationship w/ your disability that’s fine. if you don’t that’s fine too.
the only thing that’s not fine is telling someone that their relationship w/ their own disability is wrong