kk-gunner:

thesurfacetensionofbirds:

@ people who wear skirts and/or dresses: do you have any advice for how to wear a thing that does not have a divider in the middle (like the way pants and shorts do) and still be able to move around or know where your body is? 

i can’t find the words exactly to describe what i’m trying to ask…

basically, i am theoretically interested in wearing skirts and/or dresses sometimes (though more likely skirts because not having a waistband stresses me out because not enough containment/pressure), but literally cannot move my body the ways i normally do when wearing skirts or dresses because having no leg divider thing (like pants/shorts do) makes it hard for me to know how to walk, ride my bike, sit, stand, etc.

i know that i can wear pants or leggings under skirts…and that does help to some degree because then i have at least a bit of containment for my legs and can better…locate them, but it doesn’t fully address the problem i think (at least not thus far). 

bonus question: also how you not get skirts caught/stuck in stuff? for example…bike wheels, doors, car doors, backpack straps (yes, these have all happened to me before)…?

Try skorts. They are like shorts and skirts combined.

And also, I stim by feeling the fabric of my skirts so I’m always lifting them to they never get caught in anything.

Maybe a heavier material skirt would help?  I have an ankle-length skirt with a huge hem at the bottom, which gives it a nice weight and helps ground me.  (Unfortunately it was handmade by a friend of mine, so I don’t know what the exact material is or how to find/make one.)  since the skirt is more weighted down, it brushes more against my legs too (rather than moving forward ahead of me when I move as lighter materials sometimes do), which  might help the location problem.

This wouldn’t be so good for bicycling (or at least, I don’t have suggestions for how not to get caught in the wheels/chain) but I found that after I’d worn the long skirt for a while I got in the habit of gathering it up when changing position (leaving/entering a car, going up/down stairs, etc.) and that helps to keep it from getting tangled and caught around things.  A shorter skirt would probably be better for biking – but again, I don’t really have good suggestions there.

Good luck!