Still kind of want to form a political action committee called “Americans United For Shutting Up and Paying Your Damn Taxes.”
We would have ads about infrastructure and other public goods, as well as educating people about how progressive taxation works.
Our tagline would be “shut up and pay your damn taxes.”
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I love seeing those posts where people are like “if you have headmates or whatever you should be on meds because that’s not okay” posts. Like neurotypicals just think that there’s some magical pill out there that will ‘cure’ anything they don’t consider ‘normal.’ Meanwhile, in the land of reality, my shrink thinks it’s pretty healthy that I’m finally getting to know my headmates, and has no intention of putting me on magic pills, because as long as I’m not hurting myself or anyone else, who cares what neurotypicals think is ‘normal?’ Actually, let’s be real: who cares what neurotypicals think at all?
It is not a magic pill, it is called “Therapy” and you can even do it in groups!
i… literally mention my therapist… right there… in the original post…
did you not actually read this… do you honestly believe telling someone who has already admitted to being in therapy… to go to therapy… is a “gotcha” moment???
Okay, so there’s a relevant quote from Slatestar Codex here. (The link is to the source; attribution is a Thing.)
Basically, this one obsessive compulsive woman would drive to work every morning and worry she had left the hair dryer on and it was going to burn down her house. So she’d drive back home to check that the hair dryer was off, then drive back to work, then worry that maybe she hadn’t really checked well enough, then drive back, and so on ten or twenty times a day.
It’s a pretty typical case of obsessive-compulsive disorder, but it was really interfering with her life. She worked some high-powered job – I think a lawyer – and she was constantly late to everything because of this driving back and forth, to the point where her career was in a downspin and she thought she would have to quit and go on disability. She wasn’t able to go out with friends, she wasn’t even able to go to restaurants because she would keep fretting she left the hair dryer on at home and have to rush back. She’d seen countless psychiatrists, psychologists, and counselors, she’d done all sorts of therapy, she’d taken every medication in the book, and none of them had helped.
So she came to my hospital and was seen by a colleague of mine, who told her “Hey, have you thought about just bringing the hair dryer with you?”
And it worked.
She would be driving to work in the morning, and she’d start worrying she’d left the hair dryer on and it was going to burn down her house, and so she’d look at the seat next to her, and there would be the hair dryer, right there. And she only had the one hair dryer, which was now accounted for. So she would let out a sigh of relief and keep driving to work.
And approximately half the psychiatrists at my hospital thought this was absolutely scandalous, and This Is Not How One Treats Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and what if it got out to the broader psychiatric community that instead of giving all of these high-tech medications and sophisticated therapies we were just telling people to put their hair dryers on the front seat of their car?
I, on the other hand, thought it was the best fricking story I had ever heard and the guy deserved a medal. Here’s someone who was totally untreatable by the normal methods, with a debilitating condition, and a drop-dead simple intervention that nobody else had thought of gave her her life back.
It is not a therapist’s job to make you normal. It is a therapist’s job to give you your life back, on whatever terms are acceptable to you. And if your therapist can’t do that, you need to find a new therapist.
For some people, having headmates and/or alters is a debilitating condition. They’re losing large amounts of time, having trouble going to work and/or school, or hurting themselves or other people. In that case, they probably do need help, but I think most people who are getting fucked up by their headmates that badly are willing to seek out help on their own anyway.
Other people who have headmates and/or alters find it to be a neutral thing, or even a positive thing.
Have you ever been in a roommate situation where different people do different chores, because, (say) Kate loves to do the dishes, but can’t stand to vaccuum, and Toby’s the exact opposite? If Kate and Toby are headmates, they can wind up doing the same kind of thing. Headmates can also comfort you when you’re sad, remind you that your depressive or intrusive thoughts are not true, or help you deal with difficult people.
So, if you’re in that kind of situation, where your headmates are helping you to be more functional than you’d otherwise be? A good therapist is going to treat it like the hair dryer on the front seat of your car.
Sure, it is a Weird Thing. It makes you look a bit eccentric, and it’s not normal. But if having headmates keeps you from having repeated nervous breakdowns, helps you hold down your job, or makes it so that you can deal with your abusers? Then it’s a win, and a good therapist won’t try to ‘fix’ that.
It is not a therapist’s job to make you normal. It is a therapist’s job to give you your life back, on whatever terms are acceptable to you.
I have no idea who Scalia was. Isn’t that the thing that people call themselves when they are furries but with reptiles?
You’re thinking of scalies. Scalia is a quantity that has magnitude but not direction.
You’re thinking of scalars. Scalia is an opera house in Milan.
You’re thinking of La Scala. Scalia is is a form of thermal burn resulted from heated fluids such as boiling water or steam.
You’re thinking of scalding. Scalia are subjective internal experiences.
You’re thinking of qualia. Scalia is the region of Northern Europe consisting mainly of Norway, Sweden, and Finland.
You’re thinking of Scandinavia. Scalia is a company that makes trucks.
You’re thinking of Scania. Scalia is a a wizard and a Snatcher in the gang led by Fenrir Greyback in the Harry Potter universe.
You’re thinking of Scabior. Scalia was the guise assumed by Peter Pettigrew in his capacity as an Animagus,also in the Harry Potter universe.
You’re thinking of Scabbers. Scalia is a type of triangle where no two sides have the same length.
You’re thinking of Scalene. A Scalia is a method of stealing people’s valuables or money through elaborate falsehoods, deception and acting.
you’re thinking of scams. scalia is the bone that connects the humerus to the clavicle.
You’re thinking of scapula. Scalia is a small knife with a thin, sharp blade that is used in surgeries and dissections.
You’re thinking of a scalpel.Scalia is an abnormal lateral curvature of the spine.
You’re thinking of scoliosis. Scalia is the author of “Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them.”
You’re thinking of a Scamander. Scalia is a flat tool used for flipping food.
You’re thinking of a spatula. Scalia is any one of numerous species of saltwater clams or marine bivalve mollusks in the taxonomic family Pectinidae.
You’re thinking of a scallop. Scalia is the eighth astrological sign in the tropic Zodiac, and one of the three water signs, along with Cancer and Pisces.
You’re thinking of Scorpio… Scalia is a vegetable in the onion family, with long green stalks, usually added to a dish for flavor.
You’re thinking of scallion. Scalia is the ship name for Scott McCall and Malia Tate from Teen Wolf.
You’re thinking of Scott/Malia. Scalia is the primary antagonist in the He-Man cartoons. He wants to seize control of Castle Grayskull, the cultural and political stronghold of Eternia, so that he can conquer the universe and shape it to accord with his own evil vision.
You’re thinking of Skeletor. Scalia is a method of using oars to propel watercraft. In modern crew competitions, it refers to two-oared rowing.
You’re thinking of sculling. Scalia are green-skinned, shape-shifting antagonists in the Marvel comic universe.
#THE MOST EXPLICIT SEX SCENE EVER RECORDED ON FILM #THEY SHOULD HONESTLY BAN THIS IMO #he looks at her like he’s been lost in the desert wandering aimlessly for days and she’s the first water he’s seen #and when he steps closer and looks at her lips but doesn’t say anything like _______ FLATLINE #CODE BLUE #GET A FUCKING MEDIC!!! GET A DOCTOR GET A QUALIFIED PROFESSIONAL I AM DYING #you know this some real shit cause if you’re in the rain for like five minutes in jane austen you get all sick #and have to be ‘bedridden’ and ‘fussed over’ #so he went out after her in the regency equivalent of like a shootout just to be like #’I LOVE YOU BUT YOUR FAMILY IS POOR AND EMBARRASSING’ #little fitzwilliam things #’I HAVE A MARBLE STATUE OF MYSELF IN THE FOYER OF MY HOUSE let’s date’
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More crocheted babies! There will be more pictures tomorrow.
Left to Right, incase you needed it: Angua, Carrot, Vimes and Sybil.
I have no idea who Scalia was. Isn’t that the thing that people call themselves when they are furries but with reptiles?
You’re thinking of scalies. Scalia is a quantity that has magnitude but not direction.
You’re thinking of scalars. Scalia is an opera house in Milan.
You’re thinking of La Scala. Scalia is is a form of thermal burn resulted from heated fluids such as boiling water or steam.
You’re thinking of scalding. Scalia are subjective internal experiences.
You’re thinking of qualia. Scalia is the region of Northern Europe consisting mainly of Norway, Sweden, and Finland.
You’re thinking of scandinavia. Scalians believe in a religion founded by Claude Vorlihon, and that extraterrestrials (the Elohim) created life on Earth.
You’re thinking of
Raëlians. Scalia is the contagious, itchy skin condition caused by tiny burrowing mites.
You’re thinking of scabies. Scalia is the descriptor for triangles with all legs of unequal lengths.
Kimchi and Justice 