Tag: broken brain is broken

stubborn-string-bones:

i am listening to the leak in the living room window drip and like, there is this totally ridiculous idea that if you are having trouble with quotidian problem solving and demonstrating basic living skills all you really need is to be put into an overwhelming situation and you will grow to fit its requirements, you will buck up and you will magically Know What To Do and Do It when you cease to be coddled and like! people tell you this explicitly! and there is literally no alternative presented! this is your only strategy for getting things done! so how are you supposed to even imagine that you will, in fact, forget about the leak and ignore it and stare at it for long periods of time without being able to come up with a solution? there is this belief that you do not do dishes because you are very spoiled and chose not to, that doesn’t allow for the idea that in order to avoid dishes piling up you will carefully use the same cup and spoon and bowl for weeks at a time

and even after watching yourself fail again and again, even when you recognize that this system is flawed and you are, in fact, disabled, you will still sit in your train wreck of a room and figure that you will successfully pack up all of your belongings once the pressure is high enough, that the only reason you are not yet packed is because you are unmotivated

groovian-whovian:

spinningrims:

i’m seeing a lot of people reblogging suicide hotlines and this is just a reminder that this is a suicide help line that works like a text-based instant messenger for people who may need to talk to someone but have trouble/are uncomfortable making phone calls

Never don’t reblog this.
There are so many people who have such bad anxiety about phone calls.
This can save so many lives

teamroquette:

I don’t have ADHD. The results are in and the results are “ Nope!”.
More precisely, the results are that I have a lot of of the symptoms of ADHD in adults, way more than necessary, but I also had basically zero symptoms of ADHD as a kid. (and since it’s a DD…)

Which means it’s a dead end, help won’t be coming from there. Back to square two.

thaaat sounds like bullshit.  i wasn’t diagnosed until i was 16, after being told my whole childhood that I didn’t have ADHD (and I didn’t present a lot of the common symptoms, and the ones i did present were not always easy to spot).  I’m wondering if you really didn’t have symptoms as a child, or if it’s just that your coping mechanisms didn’t fail until now and so nobody noticed.  I mean, that’s obviously me projecting pretty hard, but it makes me wonder…  and seriously, if you have a lot of the symptoms now, what’s to say that treating them as ADHD wouldn’t help?  That just sounds weird to me.

actualanimevillain:

sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

svetlania:

nonarygame:

ghostboyahoy:

meek-mouse:

Plz remember that ppl with adhd (and probably some other disorders) are slow to process things. So if we ask you to repeat something 100 times its not cuz we wanna piss you off or that we cant hear you. Its just that we havent processed what you said so your words sound all garbly and make no sense.

Wait is this a thing!?! This happens to me all the time?!??

yeah, it’s called audio processing disorder and iirc it’s a pretty common comorbid disorder with a bunch of neurodevelopmental disorders!

I’ve had a form of audio processing problem since childhood, I have excellent hearing but sometimes have to ask people to repeat things (*) that everyone else in the group heard clearly, because I just can’t make out the words being pronounced. And I have a lot of trouble processing more than one verbal instruction step at a time, as well, it slides right off my brain :D;;; I really appreciate when people around me are patient with this.

(*…and sometimes I’ll just pretend that I heard everything fine even if I only understood every other word, because I feel embarrassed >__>;;)

Are You Dissociating?

goldenphoenixgirl:

Dissociating is one of the most common responses to abuse and trauma. It involves feeling numb, detached or unreal and (while it happens to everyone once in a while) is experienced more frequently and severely in survivors. Dissociating people vary widely in symptoms and may experience any or all of the things from the following list.

You may be dissociating if you:

  • find yourself staring at one spot, not thinking anything
  • feel completely numb
  • feel like you’re not really in your body, like you’re watching yourself in a movie.
  • feel suddenly lightheaded or dizzy
  • lose the plot of the show or conversation you were focused on
  • feel as if you’re not quite real, like you’re in a dream
  • feel like you’re floating 
  • suddenly feel like you’re not a part of the world around you
  • feel detached and far away from other people, who may seem mechanical or unreal to you
  • are very startled when someone/something gets your attention
  • completely forget what you were thinking just a moment ago
  • suddenly cover your face or react as if you’re about to be hurt for no reason
  • can’t remember important information about yourself, like your age or where you live
  • find yourself rocking back and forth
  • become very focused on a small or trivial object or event
  • find that voices, sounds or writing seem far away and you sometimes have trouble understanding them.
  • feel as if you’ve just experienced a flashback (perhaps rapidly) but you can’t remember anything about it.
  • perceive your body as foreign or not belonging to you

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