Tag: leave my girl alone dammit

outosumi:

Two women talking about a tranwoman using women’s restroom.

Lady A: He is in there only to peep on women.

Lady B: Were you there to peep on other women?

Lady A: No.

Lady B: Neither was she.

Lady A: She is a he!

Lady B: Are you a he?

Lady A: No.

Lady B: Neither is she.

Lady A: But he has a penis!

Lady B: Have you seen her penis?

Lady A: Yes!

Lady B: Then I firmly believe you are the one who did the peeping.

nohetero:

nohetero:

heyyo here’s a fun fact for y’all

trans women don’t experience male socialization before we come out

we experience closeted trans woman socialization which is an entirely different and extremely toxic monster

thank and have a terrible day if you disagree 

hi if you’re safe to do so you should probably be reblogging this
the idea that trans women are socialized as anything but women is one of the most potent arguments for stripping us of our humanity

bitterpunktrash:

But like, there’s something to be said here in the implicit connection between ‘prettiness’ and ‘passability’ that works its way even into cis people’s (esp cis women’s) ally behavior with trans women.

Like, whenever I get read and yelled at by dudes, it is almost always because the person was checking me out, clocked me, and got mad. Like, most of the threats of transphobic violence I’ve faced is due to having been seen as attractive, and ‘tricking’ the dude.

But when cis women try to be reassuring to me, both when they are present and when I talk about it later, it is almost always done with the refrain ‘you are beautiful’ or another appeal to my physical attractiveness. Beyond the fact that that’s basically the same perspective on trans women that objectified us generally, it doesn’t really get at the point.

I know I’m attractive to people, because men keep on street harassing me. I don’t need reassurance there. And really, it’s precisely because I’m ‘beautiful’ in a conventional sense that I am dealing with the difficulty that these cis women allies are comforting me from.

So for cis women, they think a dude clocking me and calling me an abomination or a tranny is upsetting to me because it’s him calling me ugly (because not passing=ugliness) and that I’m upset about being seen as ugly. But really, it’s because he doesn’t see that I’m a human, or is misgendering me and not respecting my autonomy or humanity. Which is a huge difference that can’t be papered over with ‘you’re so pretty’.

insectaffection:

hawk-and-handsaw:

if u are a cis girl, here are some things not to say to trans girls or transfeminine ppl 

  • you do makeup better than I do!
  • you have better legs than I do!
  • you’re prettier than I am! 
  • etc

these compliments are just a way the disguise your shock at the femininity of “fake” women, compared to you, a “real” woman. stop. 

*draws HUGE RED circles around this with a ton of arrows pointing at it*

Ontario becomes first province to ban ‘conversion therapy’ for LGBTQ children

allthecanadianpolitics:

Ontario has passed a landmark law banning so-called “conversion therapy” on lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender children and preventing medical practitioners from billing OHIP for it.

The legislation proposed by New Democrat MPP Cheri DiNovo won unanimous support from all three parties at Queen’s Park on Thursday, in time for Pride week, which begins June 19.

It’s the first law of its kind in Canada and goes further than conversion therapy bans in several U.S. states by including protection for the transgender community.

“We’re sending an incredibly strong message … there’s absolutely no room in an inclusive society for trying to change somebody’s sexual identity or their gender expression or their gender identity,” DiNovo told the Star.

She said LGBTQ children are sometimes forced into the therapy by anxious parents and noted transgender people have an attempted suicide rate of 50 per cent.

Susan Gapka, founder and chair of the Trans Lobby Group, called the bill “huge progress” while Health Minister Eric Hoskins, a family doctor, called conversion therapy a “dangerous treatment” and said people have the right “to be who they are.”

“The practice of conversion therapy has no place in Ontario, a province where acceptance, respect and diversity are our most cherished strengths,” he added in a statement.

🙂

Ontario becomes first province to ban ‘conversion therapy’ for LGBTQ children

fuckyeahbodypositivity:

I’ve also been uncomfortable with how much emphasis has been placed on Caitlyn Jenner’s beauty by cis people. 

Yes she is beautiful.

But a woman doesn’t have to be beautiful to deserve respect or to be a woman.

And when I see the emphasis being placed on a trans woman’s beauty when she comes out with comments like “wow she really pulled herself together,” it makes me wonder if what my fellow cis people are really saying is “she looks like what I think a woman should look like.” And where does that leave trans women who don’t meet normative (and especially cisnormative) standards of beauty?

I just want to make sure we are celebrating the beauty and worth of all trans women, not just those who are white, famous, and wealthy enough to afford any form of physical transition they desire. And that as cis people we’re being self-critical of the ways we think and speak about trans people.

lavernecox:

On May 29, 2014, the issue of timemagazine magazine which proclaimed the “Transgender Tipping Point” was revealed with me on the cover. June 1, 2015 a year and 3 days later, Caitlyn Jenner’s vanityfair cover was revealed proclaiming #CallMeCaitlyn

I am so moved by all the love and support Caitlyn is receiving. It feels like a new day, indeed, when a trans person can present her authentic self to the world for the first time and be celebrated for it so universally.

Many have commented on how gorgeous Caitlyn looks in her photos, how she is “slaying for the Gods.” I must echo these comments in the vernacular, “Yasss Gawd! Werk Caitlyn! Get it!”

But this has made me reflect critically on my own desires to ‘work a photo shoot’, to serve up various forms of glamour, power, sexiness, body affirming, racially empowering images of the various sides of my black, trans womanhood.

I love working a photo shoot and creating inspiring images for my fans, for the world and above all for myself. But I also hope that it is my talent, my intelligence, my heart and spirit that most captivate, inspire, move and encourage folks to think more critically about the world around them.

Yes, Caitlyn looks amazing and is beautiful but what I think is most beautiful about her is her heart and soul, the ways she has allowed the world into her vulnerabilities. The love and devotion she has for her family and that they have for her. Her courage to move past denial into her truth so publicly. These things are beyond beautiful to me.

A year ago when my Time magazine cover came out I saw posts from many trans folks saying that I am “drop dead gorgeous” and that that doesn’t represent most trans people. (It was news to be that I am drop dead gorgeous but I’ll certainly take it). But what I think they meant is that in certain lighting, at certain angles I am able to embody certain cisnormative beauty standards. Now, there are many trans folks because of genetics and/or lack of material access who will never be able to embody these standards. More importantly many trans folks don’t want to embody them and we shouldn’t have to to be seen as ourselves and respected as ourselves . It is important to note that these standards are also infomed by race, class and ability among other intersections.

I have always been aware that I can never represent all trans people. No one or two or three trans people can. This is why we need diverse media representstions of trans folks to multiply trans narratives in the media and depict our beautiful diversities.

I started #TransIsBeautiful as a way to celebrate all those things that make trans folks uniquely trans, those things that don’t necessarily align with cisnormative beauty standards. For me it is necessary everyday to celebrate every aspect of myself especially those things about myself that don’t align with other people’s ideas about what is beautiful. #TransIsBeautiful is about, whether you’re trans or not, celebrating all those things that make us uniquely ourselves.

Most trans folks don’t have the privileges Caitlyn and I have now have. It is those trans folks we must continue to lift up, get them access to healthcare, jobs, housing, safe streets, safe schools and homes for our young people. We must lift up the stories of those most at risk, statistically trans people of color who are poor and working class.

I have hoped over the past few years that the incredible love I have received from the public can translate to the lives of all trans folks. Trans folks of all races, gender expressions, ability, sexual orientations, classes, immigration status, employment status, transition status, genital status etc.. I hope, as I know Caitlyn does, that the love she is receiving can translate into changing hearts and minds about who all trans people are as well as shifting public policies to fully support the lives and well being of all of us.

The struggle continues…

quirkinitup:

I hate how cool certain terms sound and then it turns out they’re bullshit.

Like, “radical feminism” or “gender critical”

If you had asked me what these things were before I found out, I would have been like, “Oh, well, it sounds like really cool, no bullshit, not-pandering-to-dudebros feminism and then the other thing must mean a person who questions the gender binary and traditional gender roles, so neat!”

And actually both are just fancy terms for transmisogyny, so fuck that.