Off the top of her head, before going to work this morning:
Specifically robots:
- Neptune’s Brood, Charles Stross
- Saturn’s Children, also Stross (which does have lots of Teh Sex but is nicely trope-subversive – it’s a reimagining of Heinlein’s Friday)
Sort-of robots:
- Ancillary Justice/Ancillary Sword, Ann Leckie (beware, the third one isn’t out yet)
General non-titty-based sci-fi:
- Women Destroy Science Fiction! a compilation published by Lightspeed Magazine. I’m pretty sure some of these stories do actually contain robots. (there is also Queers Destroy Science Fiction but she hasn’t finished that so can’t recommend it yet)
- Conservation of Shadows, Yoon Ha Lee
- Glitter and Mayhem, a compilation published by Apex
- Heiresses of Russ: technically categorized as “lesbian speculative fiction”. As such, some does contain Teh Sex, but at least it’s with lesbians. It’s an annual collection, some years are better than others.
- Litany of Earth, Ruthanna Emrys: post-colonialist Lovecraftian.
- ursulavernon has lots of good stories, although they tend to be more fantasy-oriented than sci-fi.
- Tea with a Black Dragon, R. A. Macavoy (also her other stuff)
- She also suggests trawling the Tiptree Award winners.
Further additions as books occur to her.
Kimchi and Justice 